Motivation Monday - Building Confidence!

Confidence is the sexiest accessory you have and we all could use an extra boost to our ego! When we have a sense of self confidence we have better posture, people are automatically drawn to us, we are viewed as more attractive, approachable and in more control of our lives. But how do we achieve that self-confidence.

Below are some ways you can achieve more self-confidence.

Don’t compare yourself to others Everyone is difference and has different strengths so don’t compare your looks to someone else, your success to someone else or your status to someone else. The only person you should be comparing yourself with is you! Make improvements that will better yourself from the person you were yesterday or a month ago. As you make little improvements you will start to see your confidence sore!
Look on the positive side of life Too many times we get bogged down with negativity. We ask why we don’t have more money, a better job, a more attentive mate etc. Why not look at the positive things… we have a roof over our head, a steady income and people who loves us!
Realize you have the power to change your situation If you don’t like you fitness level, join a gym. If you don’t like your job, look for a new one. If you’re are unhappy with your relationship, look for ways to spice things up. YOU have all the power here!! Taking the first step in changing your situation will help you feel powerful and more in charge of your life!
Practice gratitude At the end of the night say something you are grateful for no matter how small it may be. Or start a gratitude jar or journal and write a note every time you feel thankful or when someone has shown you gratitude. At the end of the year read all your notes and you will realize how many wonderful things have happened to you!
Smile A smile is contagious and also raises the endorphins in your body which in turn will make you happier. If you are happier you will exude a glow and a healthy self-esteem. A smile is also infectious so you might just brighten someone else’s day and make them smile!

Wear things that make you happy Don’t wait for a special occasion to put on that special outfit, or special piece of jewelry. Why not wear it to work or grocery shopping. If it makes you feel beautiful or good about yourself pull it out of your closet and retire the sweats. However, if sweats make you feel happy why not have a pajama party once and a while!
Stop being your own worst critic If you are having a bad hair day chances are no one but you will notice so stop being grumpy about it. Stop pointing out your flaws to people and stop talking down to yourself! If you wouldn’t say something to a family member or a friend, why would you say those things to yourself. Be kind to yourself always! Once you can authentically love yourself you will have an abundance of confidence and you will stop basing your self-esteem on what others think of you!
Do something nice for someone else Being selfless makes you feel happy and gives you a boost of confidence!

Laugh at yourself When we are able to laugh at ourselves we stop taking ourselves too seriously. When we stop taking ourselves too seriously we can enjoy every day to the fullest, see the joys in the little things and be happy and confident!
Stop complaining Try to stop complaining for a week or even a day and see how you feel at the end of it. I bet you will feel more confident and positive about your life!
Accept a compliment Instead of brushing the compliment off simply say thank you and actually mean it!
Exercise/Eat right Knowing your taking control of your wellbeing will give you a much needed boost of confidence. Exercise will provide you with those “feel good” endorphins and make you feel more confident and powerful!

Fake it You might not have all the self confidence that you want right off the bat but if you start acting like you do you will start believing it yourself and in turn gain some self-confidence along the way!
Learn from your failures Don’t hide or run away from your failures, they are learning opportunities! If something went wrong ask yourself what can you learn from the experience and what can you do next time to insure a better outcome?
Hug someone or tell someone you love them Don’t let these moments be fleeting, a simple kind gesture like these will make a loved one feel happy. When you see you are making someone else happy you will feel good about yourself and your confidence will improve!